{"id":264,"date":"2013-03-15T19:52:09","date_gmt":"2013-03-15T19:52:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/?page_id=264"},"modified":"2025-06-25T17:11:05","modified_gmt":"2025-06-25T17:11:05","slug":"how-to-do-the-work","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/how-to-do-the-work\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Do The Work"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The Work is a two step process. Step one is to identify your stressful thoughts.<\/p>\n<p><span data-huuid=\"7071727003364584924\">The first step in doing &#8220;The Work,&#8221; as taught by <span class=\"M5tQyf\">Byron Katie,<\/span>\u00a0is to identify your stressful thoughts.\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"7071727003364582333\">This involves pinpointing the specific thoughts that cause you emotional distress.\u00a0 <\/span><span data-huuid=\"7071727003364583838\">You then write these thoughts down, often using a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet.\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"7071727003364585343\">The key is to capture the thoughts in short, simple sentences, remaining grounded in the specific situation and moment in time.<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"292fa7d9-f6cd-4a3a-952b-3f0c5b7bb57e\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"WaaZC\">\n<div class=\"RJPOee EIJn2\">\n<div class=\"NPrrbc\" data-cid=\"292fa7d9-f6cd-4a3a-952b-3f0c5b7bb57e\" data-uuids=\"7071727003364584924,7071727003364582333,7071727003364583838,7071727003364585343\">\n<div class=\"BMebGe btku5b fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" aria-label=\"View related links\" data-hveid=\"CAQQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQ3fYKegQIBBAB\">\n<div class=\"niO4u\">\n<p class=\"kHtcsd\">Here&#8217;s a more detailed breakdown:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"WaaZC\">\n<div class=\"RJPOee EIJn2\">\n<ul data-hveid=\"CB0QAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQm_YKegQIHRAB\">\n<li><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467322884\"><strong>Identify the stressor:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467323995\">Pinpoint the situation, person, or circumstance that is causing you stress.<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"34cd675a-11ee-4291-b736-3d2e82ad593b\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<div class=\"NPrrbc\" data-cid=\"34cd675a-11ee-4291-b736-3d2e82ad593b\" data-uuids=\"17526371070467322884,17526371070467323995\">\n<div class=\"BMebGe btku5b fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" aria-label=\"View related links\" data-hveid=\"CBAQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQ3fYKegQIEBAB\">\n<div class=\"niO4u\">\n<div class=\"kHtcsd\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467322121\"><strong>Find the thought:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467323232\">What specific thought is causing you the most distress in that situation?<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"4fbe4e88-cf6d-41ff-931f-075be0827283\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<div class=\"NPrrbc\" data-cid=\"4fbe4e88-cf6d-41ff-931f-075be0827283\" data-uuids=\"17526371070467322121,17526371070467323232\">\n<div class=\"BMebGe btku5b fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" aria-label=\"View related links\" data-hveid=\"CBcQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQ3fYKegQIFxAB\">\n<div class=\"niO4u\">\n<div class=\"kHtcsd\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467325454\"><strong>Write it down:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467322469\">Use short, clear sentences to articulate the thought on a worksheet.<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"c26efd55-95ae-4083-b1ba-883a7efe8b61\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<div class=\"NPrrbc\" data-cid=\"c26efd55-95ae-4083-b1ba-883a7efe8b61\" data-uuids=\"17526371070467325454,17526371070467322469\">\n<div class=\"BMebGe btku5b fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" aria-label=\"View related links\" data-hveid=\"CBkQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQ3fYKegQIGRAB\">\n<div class=\"niO4u\">\n<div class=\"kHtcsd\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467324691\"><strong>Stay grounded:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"17526371070467325802\">Keep the focus on the specific situation and avoid getting lost in generalities or judgments.<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"0ec0d536-74d9-4f38-9cc6-c7dce68b7eb5\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<div class=\"NPrrbc\" data-cid=\"0ec0d536-74d9-4f38-9cc6-c7dce68b7eb5\" data-uuids=\"17526371070467324691,17526371070467325802\">\n<div class=\"BMebGe btku5b fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf\" tabindex=\"0\" role=\"button\" aria-label=\"View related links\" data-hveid=\"CBUQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQ3fYKegQIFRAB\">\n<div class=\"niO4u\">\n<div class=\"kHtcsd\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"WaaZC\">\n<div class=\"RJPOee EIJn2\">\n<p class=\"rPeykc\" data-hveid=\"CCYQAQ\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjS1c2zho2OAxUV78kDHcyTGrwQo_EKegQIJhAB\"><span data-huuid=\"10763541096804715968\">Once you&#8217;ve identified your stressful thought, the next step in &#8220;The Work&#8221; is to question it using\u00a0<span class=\"M5tQyf\">four key questions.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><span data-huuid=\"10763541096804714295\">These questions help you examine the truth of the thought and explore alternative perspectives.<span class=\"pjBG2e\" data-cid=\"c7700d36-8899-4d1f-9225-788560575f07\"><span class=\"UV3uM\">\u00a0 To learn more, <a href=\"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/instructions_for_thework.pdf\">click here.\u00a0<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Work is a two step process. Step one is to identify your stressful thoughts. The first step in doing &#8220;The Work,&#8221; as taught by Byron Katie,\u00a0is to identify your stressful thoughts.\u00a0This involves pinpointing the specific thoughts that cause you &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/how-to-do-the-work\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/264"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=264"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/264\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1111,"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/264\/revisions\/1111"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/theworkwithbryan.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=264"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}